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When I was young, I thought that to love one self was vanity and not a virtuous trait. As I have grown older, that belief has passed away, as have so many others. There is a vast deviation between being vain and loving one self.

We are all in this world together striving for more or less the same things. To contribute and have our lives count for something. To love and be loved, to laugh and……yes, to cry.

We seek shelter, nourishment, a mate, warmth, clothing, friends; we seek approval, love and self-esteem. We are all imperfect. Often during our search we forget to simply enjoy what could have been, what should be, what might be, that many of our days are lost. Let yesterday rest, live for today, hope and dream for your tomorrows.

If there is some part of you that lesson your self-image, some part of you that prevents you from loving yourself, change it, for only you can. Life is filled with things we have no control over, but ourselves, we can control. You are the clay, you are the sculptor and you have the ability to create a masterpiece. The shape and form are there. You have to only refine the work.

Is the task an easy one? No. There will be sips and flaws and you will be sips and flaws and you will be required to work and rework just as a sculptor must rework the clay before the piece is completed. Should the sculptor throw out the piece condemning it as worthless because of blemish of nick? Of course not, where then would all the world’s treasured arts be? I doubt we would have any. How many masterpieces do you think have been created in one fell swoop, a first effort completely successful without error, without change? Is it possible we fail to see that mankind is the most marvelous of all works of art? A living, continuous, developing work of art.

How often have you questioned to yourself: ”what is the human race coming to” The answer, in my mind at least is whatever we make it, for we are the weavers of tomorrow. You are a treasure, beyond price, one of a kind irreplaceable. Not perfect but well on your way to be a masterpiece. Do not let your yesterdays hinder tomorrow’s achievements.

Again, I say to you that these words are merely feelings and thoughts, one person’s outlook and subject to change with tomorrows setting sun, as I too continue to sculpt the lump of clay given to me at birth, called self.

在愛情方面,女人再優秀長得再漂亮也會有被拋棄的可能，永遠不要相信什麼“他不要我，只是我不夠好“這樣的蠢話，事情往往是你再好也沒有用，事實上可能就是你太好了，讓男人產生了壓力，他覺得與你在一起不能彰顯他的強大，讓他失去了作為一個男人可以被依靠的感覺。所以，王菲輸給了高原，而好萊烏女星安妮斯頓輸給了安吉麗娜。永遠不要相信“堅貞“這個詞是用鐵打的，很多時候，之所以堅貞，僅僅是因為誘惑力不夠大。 大街上長得漂亮的女人多得是;但是，什麼是男人眼中真正的漂亮?那就是女人獨有的氣質美，一個隻關注自己長象、衣著、以及物質的修飾。對美是一種折扣！側重了五官和衣服的美麗，只有獨有的氣質美心靈美和博采群書的高雅之美和樸實的內心世界才是女人真正的美。

當然，風情萬種，千嬌百媚，美貌固然重要，但欠缺底蘊，經不起時間的磨礪！

古時女人被休，如果寫不來像

現在，棄婦本身已沒有那麼嚴重的悲劇意義。做棄婦不可怕。可怕的是被拋棄後一蹶不振，終生潦倒。棄婦所要做的就是應該不動聲色，繼續生活。像王菲那樣漫不經心地賺大錢，沒了你，我亦能愛上別人；或像安妮斯頓那樣，被布拉德皮特拋棄後，變得更有女人味。越來越覺得，這樣的女人很爭氣，絕不將個人哀怨放到桌面上，即使向隅低泣，也不做祥林嫂。

記得很久以前看過一句廣告詞，說愛情之所以是美麗的，正是因為它是自由選擇的。這句話不無道理。一個人愛誰、不愛誰是自由選擇的。而選擇愛情還是選擇物質，又何嘗不應該是一個人的自由呢？

男人追求金錢叫做追求事業，無可厚非；那麼一個女人追求物質，怎麼就成了一個罪人，要遭人唾駡了呢？就算是她想用婚姻來換取自己的優裕生活，只要她不是用卑鄙下流的手段，誰又有資格有權利指責她什麼呢？大家的志向不同而已。你要你的愛情，她要她的物質，人生姿態不一樣。

這裏面沒有對與錯是與非的問題。做個堅強、自立、美麗的女人吧。 一個女人可以生得不漂亮，但是一定要活得漂亮。無論什麼時候，淵博的知識、良好的修養、文明的舉止、優雅的談吐、博大的胸懷，以及一顆充滿愛的心靈，一定可以讓一個人活得足夠漂亮，哪怕你本身長得並不漂亮。

活得漂亮，就是活出一種精神、一種品位、一份至真至性的精彩。一個人只要不自棄，相信沒有誰可以阻礙你進步。 你們要相信自己，善待自己，讓自己的生活精彩紛呈，讓自己的人生更精彩！

所以，你不必才華橫溢，必須知書達理；不必有標準的五官，必須有獨特的氣質。當你擁有健康紅潤的面頰，當你永遠表現得神采奕奕精力充沛，當你燦爛的笑容像冬天的暖陽，當你不經意地關心四周的人和事，當你始終如一地保持豁達的風度，誰能說你沒有魅力？